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Enjoy Quality Time

“It’s not more time you need. It’s more quality use of the time you already have.”
Alan Cohen


It's true. Most of us are caught up in a busy routine and commitments that start from early morning, end up on the evening or even night and then comes another day and it starts all over again. Time slips by as we rush to complete urgent tasks which relate to our carrer, managing the household, taking care of the children or dogs (or both), our parents, relatives and spouses to work, school, appointments and commitments, find time to meet friends, workout. oh it's exhausted, even to write it down.

Yet, we all acknowledge, that spending quality time together is VERY IMPORTANT and it might be the best way we have to show each other that we care and that our families are important.

Show your children they matter. Your children need you. Not being around them will make them feel like they don’t matter to you. Children crave attention, especially from their parents. And as a responsible parent that you are, you need to be there for them in their achievements and most importantly, at times when they feel low. Spending time with your kids will make them realize that they matter to you.

So remember, it's not HOW MUCH TIME but HOW YOU CHOSE TO SPEND THEAT TIME.

Key notes (for those who get lazy to read it all)

  • Make spending time with your family something you do on a daily basis.

  • Understand that the type of time you spend should vary according to what each family member needs and is most comfortable with.

  • Create Daily habits that can make a bigger difference to your family relationships than "once-in-a-lifetime" events (just in holidays or special occasion)

  • Pick 1 or 2 ways to spend time together and make sure that you commit to these on a long-term basis.

  • Have a meal together.

  • Go for a walk after dinner and exercise together.

  • Clean the house togther.

  • TURN OFF YOUR PHONE!!!

So, here we go, some recommendations on how to share quality meaningful time with our beloved ones:

(Believe me, I'm applying most of them and it has brought me joy)

1. To Strengthen the Bond

Spending good time with your family will help strengthen relationships with one another.

Some families solve this problem by organizing big family holidays together. This allows them to get away from the day-to-day distractions and interact by building new experiences together. However, whilst, this is a great option, daily habits can make a much bigger difference to your family relationships than “once-in-a-lifetime” events. In addition, specifically tailoring your daily interactions with different members of your family can be a very effective way to relate to them on a 1-on-1 basis. Children especially, need to feel like they belong. This is a significant reason why children form groups and befriend each other at school. Adults too require a sense of belonging. This arises from the fact that we are all social beings. Spending time with your family will make every member feel like a part of something special. It also reduces stress as it makes you happy and contented to be with your loved ones.

2. To Teach and Learn New Things

When you spend time with your family, you obviously discuss new things. This is the best way to share interesting information and facts, play board games, solving a puzzle, reading the news, or simply, hold engaging conversations. Children are always, all ears. No doubt, they will love to hear something interesting and tell their tales of school. This way, the whole family learns something new.

For example, read together can be a great option.

Reading to your children or even companionably reading books together for half an hour each night is a great way to spend time together. Choosing books to read and discussing them are ways to share ideas and values with your children. Another option is to Share Family Stories. Find time to share stories about your family’s history. Dig out your old photo albums and look through them with your children. Add new pictures to the family collection together and make this a regular activity.

3. To Inculcate Values

Children need to be nurtured and guided along the right path. Spending time with your family can help you teach values to your children. Children tend to imitate their elders. By not spending time with them, they, in turn, might end up doing the same with their children, which is why you need to spend quality time with them and have a good laugh. Make memories with your children because it will help them learn that little things matter. Spending time with them will also give them the opportunity to learn values from you.

4. Have At Least One Meal Together

Make it a point to have at least one meal together as a family. You could have breakfast or dinner together. I know that having lunch together every day is not possible because of the daily routine but don’t let that stop you from spending time as a family Enjoy a meal together, share your thoughts and feelings, answering questions and spend quality time.

Cooking the meal together can be a bonding and very important time to share as well.

Cooking is a great activity and doing this together as a family is a great way to spend family time. You can cook a new dish each time, let each member of the family to get to choice a meal they would like to try and guide the rest of the members or stick to an old tradition and cook a particular dish that is an old recipe passed on through generations.

Also, to pass on traditions in general is a great idea.

Every family has a set of traditions that are passed on through generations. It could be something as simple as having a secret handshake or going to a fancy restaurant once a month. Traditions make you feel special together.

It can be: A day out each month

Once a month, go out on a field trip or picnic. And every year, plan a vacation to a place where you have never been before. Travelling and visiting places can be great fun and is a fantastic way to spend some quality time with your family.

5. Go for a Walk After Dinner

There’s just something beautiful about the nights, don’t you think? There is silence but it is peaceful. It’s the best time to go for a walk. After your meal and before going to bed, make it a point to take a walk or stroll on the empty road outside. Take your family along. Talk to each other, make plans for the future, and just enjoy! It can be also on the weekend as a tradition, going to watch the sunset, to see how the colors change in the sky, it's a very magical moment to share together as a family.




6. Exercise or Workout Together

Working out with your family members can be a lot of fun. This is a double win for all as this way you will be healthy as well. Join the local gym, or simply, work out at home if you’ve got the equipment or with none. You can also teach your kids to exercise. Start teaching simple exercises to your kids; once they get a knack of it, they will look forward to exercising schedules and spending time with you.

7. Clean the House Together

Cleaning the house may not sound fun, but when you do it together as a family, it becomes fun. Put some music on, move the furniture around, and get rid of all that clutter. At the end of the day, you’ll be satisfied to see that you did something productive and spent time with your family as well.

Another option can be fix things together.

Is the kitchen sink broken? Do you need to paint the study room wall? Children love to help fix things. To us, it may seem like a mundane task, but to most kids, it’s a wonderful chance to see what’s under the kitchen sink, to understand how a faucet works and just to cover an entire wall in paint. Fixing things together allows you to plan for the project and also gives you lots of time to interact and learn something new that they might need in the future in their adult life as well.

8. Turn Off Your Phone

This point should be first but sometimes it's hard because of our commitment. But it's important to remember: When you’re with your family, the plan is to spend quality time. Taking calls, especially from work, should be the last thing you do when you’re spending time with your family. So, switch off your phones and focus on each other at least for a little while.

for example, you can leave a message, not via your phone but written.

Children love surprises, so if you don’t have the time to see them in the morning before you leave for work, leave a note for them to find. They will be thrilled to get a message from you and you will have had a chance to show that you are sorry you couldn’t spend the morning with them, but that you value it so much that you made an effort to leave them a surprise note or message.

9. Help Your Children with Their School Work

Take some time off to help your children with their school work. You need to know what’s going on in your child’s life, and at this point, school is their second home. Helping them out with their homework will allow you to figure out their weaknesses and strong points. Sparing time to spend with the children will instill a sense of confidence in them as well. They will be more open to coming face to face with their weaknesses and fears they have about school if you are by their side.

As your children grow into their teenage years, spending time together becomes even more important, and at the same time, difficult. It takes a little more effort, but finding daily time for your teenagers is possible. Another option is to Bring Your Child to School or Class. Make it a point to bring your child to school or to any extra classes they may have. Doing this regularly allows you to spend more time together. Make travel time, that means more together time!

When your children grow up it can be more challenging to spend that time with them (if they even want to) but it's important to remember and not to skip these quality time and:

* Conversations with Your Teen

Take the opportunity to talk to your teenager whilst you are travelling together. Whether you are travelling with your teenager on the bus, train or in the car, there usually isn’t much else to do except talk. So seize the chance and get your teenager to open up and share more with you about their lives! Also, chat with your teen. Connect with your teen through chat functions on your phone. Even though they may not necessarily want to add you on social media, sending regular short, encouraging chat messages can keep you in touch with your teen just as effectively.

* Spend Time Each Day with Your Teen

Even if it is only 5 minutes a day, find a time which you can spend with your teen. Maybe you want to be around when they come home to say hello and to ask them how their day went. Or perhaps you make it a point to spend 5 minutes talking to them just before they go to bed and you wish each other goodnight. Find a way to have a specific and dedicated time each day for a short conversation. This way, if they ever feel that they need to speak with you about something important, they know that there is this time in the day when you will definitely be there for them.



10. To Understand One Another

When you spend time with your family, you get to know your loved ones better. This way, you understand them well. You learn what they love, their pet peeves, and their fears. The more time you spend with your loved ones, the more you will understand them.

11. To Learn to Deal with Highs and Lows Together

A family means being there for each other in both the good and the bad. A family is all about fighting the odds, together. Familial bonds are beautiful, and the whole point of being a family is to support one another through thick and thins. When you spend quality time with your family, you get to know what’s going on in each other’s lives.



“The amount of time you spend interceding for others is a testimony to the love you have for them.”
Bobby Gene Redding,







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